What's Being Said About You?

Just about all people have spoken badly about someone else at some point in their lives.

Every time that I hear someone talk badly about another person, I always say to the person "I wonder what people say about me when I'm not around." I am not proud to say that I've fallen into the same thing. I've said bad things about others before and I wish I hadn't.

Think about it. If someone is talking badly about another person to you, what's to stop that person from saying bad things about you when you're not around? I don't see what would.

When I was a teenager, I would say bad things about people behind their backs all the time. I felt that everyone did it and even talked badly about me. This was and is an unintelligent way to think. It doesn't better the community in any way.

I dated a girl that had recently broken up with a guy. She was constantly telling me how stupid he was. She talked about him so much that I felt like knew the guy. Every time she'd tell me something bad about him I'd wonder if any of it was true. I'd also wonder what she was going to say about me when we broke (by that point I knew it was over because of how badly she spoke of him and others). I lost so much respect for her.

We stopped dating and I had no doubt that she'd spoken badly about me. As If there was anything bad to say? Just kidding. She started dating the very guy that she'd constantly said terrible things about. I wondered what he'd think if he knew what she'd said about him.

Nonetheless, they broke up and she wanted to date me again. I had no desire to get back with her. She was pretty persistent in trying to date me again. Throughout all of her coaxing I wondered what she'd said about me after we'd stopped dating. I never got back with her.

Why do we talk badly about others? If people are being stupid then just let them be stupid. Saying bad things about them doesn't make what they're doing any less stupid. In fact, it makes some people wonder what you'll say behind you're back.