Dating Signals

This goes out to all the boys and girls out there who get frustrated with dating.

I asked a girl out once upon a time (shocking I know) and this girl was the perfect example of what to do if you're interested in someone. We'll call her Esmerelda.

I called Esmerelda and asked her if she'd be interested in going on a date with me the coming Friday. She told me that she couldn't go out with me that Friday because she already plans. That could be a valid excuse, but she could've just made it up because she didn't want to go out with me. A guy is basically left to wonder.

Shortly after she told me had plans on Friday she said "but I'm free on Saturday." Now I knew that Esmerelda was interested in me. It took so much of the guessing out of the equation. As a result, we went out on Saturday night and had a good time.

I had a similar experience with another girl, we'll call her Kiki.

I met Kiki and thought she was gorgeous and had a good personality. I asked her if she would like to accompany me on a date. Kiki said she was going to be out of town so she couldn't go out with me. Was Kiki telling the truth or was she merely blowing me off? I think she was blowing me off. If she was interested in me she should've done what Esmerelda did.

Kiki gave me no reason to believe she wanted to go out with me. Consequently, I never asked Kiki out again and I never will unless she gives me a reason to.

Communication is pretty important in relationships and that includes the initial part of dating. If you don't communicate well, the person will be confused. If you're interested in someone, make it clear. If you're not, make that clear as well. Don't send mixed messages.